Challenge #23

Was yesterday's challenge a doozy or what?
Some of you may have read my comment in which I said that was a lesson that I learned the hard way. I can tell you first hand, the "little things" (as we may view them at the time) can drive a big wedge between you and your spouse. A friend of mine said yesterday that we need to be in healthy relationships with our friends, how very true. I want to take that a step further and say that we need to be in godly relationships with our friends. Let your relationships with people be both Christ and spouse honoring.

I'm just going to be upfront with you about today's challenge. Some of you aren't ready to take it. Period. To take this challenge, you really have to come out of "yourself" and by that I mean, you have to set your feelings and opinions and especially your sensitivity aside. As a person who has completed this challenge multiple times throughout the years, I know - it can hurt. But I also know, it can truly help if you actually do it! And that is the only reason that I am giving it to you all today.

Today's challenge is to ask your spouse what they would like you to work on: if there are any areas in which you could improve. 

Now that it's out there, know this: you can NOT control your spouse's answer(s) to this question. Not in any way, shape, or form. You also can't control how sweetly or condescendingly they give the responses. So to do this may take thick skin, depending on your marriage. This also takes a willingness to truly know what your spouse desires from you. And once you know it, you can't un-know it. And it would be unwise to ignore it.