Sunday, February 19, 2012

Another Write Up By Our Pastor

(Will be moved to the Pastoral Insight page)

I've never claimed to be a professional when it comes to relationships but 42 years of marriage can give a lot of information. Everybody knows that we need to spend quality time with our mate if we are going to have a good relationship. But we live in the twenty first-century where both spouses work outside the home and the day can really take it out of us. We're so tired when we finally get to bed that we rarely take the time to talk or nurture that special relationship that is ours alone.
Look at your schedule and see where some quiet time together can be stolen from the world. We can make time for the items that are important, if we have to. I f you had a child in the hospital, you would most certainly make the time to spend hours there.
Building a deeper bond can be created just by sharing time and talking about your day. Needless to say your spouse wants to hear about your day as long as you have been able to set apart time for it. To the contrary, when we love someone, we want to be part of their everything. A very important thing to understand that the love quotes that we all read ought to be an inspiration and not a judgment. We all want a love that lasts like we read about in the quotes about love. But that love is one which is acquired and not just handed to us.
It is great to use your time to just discuss and do activities you enjoy. Why not go for a car ride and speak of your day. My wife and I do this often and it really nourishes our relationship. Some couples play word games or trivia on the web, laughing and communicating with each other as they did when they were dating so long ago. Use your time well to find things that both of you enjoy and just have fun together.
Consider, even thirty minutes a day can be enough to overcome the stress of the day together. Pass on jokes and anything unusual that occurred. This may sound silly, but do not be afraid to create a list of thi together. Pass on jokes and anything unusual that occurred. This may sound silly, but do not be afraid to create a list of things that you want to speak about later on that night. You must train yourself to remember the important and even little things to talk about.
Plan when your next time together will be and what you are going to do. Just get out and live life. Make sure you spend time both in and out of the home together. Learn to mix things up so that your time together will always be interesting. It is important to keep things interesting.
Learn to speak positively of the great things about the place you work and not just always focusing on the things that give you stress. Your job has its good points so make sure to talk about it. By speaking about your day in all its aspect you will be able to build a bridge of communication that cannot be built in any other way. You need this time to talk to your spouse about all that has gone on.
Make time to pray and read your Bible. Include the Lord in all your activities and seek Him for guidance. Pray for your spouse that God will make them the person He wants them to be, not what you want them to be. Get involved together in your church and Sunday School. Spend time with mature Christian couples and learn from them how to nurture your relationship. All relationships have to be nurtured or else they will dwindle and die! God Bless!!

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