For the Men

(This will be moved to the Pastoral Insight page)

Its Valentine's Day in America and I can't even begin to imagine how busy the florist, candy stores and restaurants are going to be. And if your lucky, I will put the jewelers in that mix. We are going to do something special for our sweethearts this one day out of the year and take em for granted the other 364! I've learned a lot in 42 years of marriage and I would like to share with you men a couple of things I've learned.

You guys who are in a relationship, you need to always remember that you shouldn’t ever take your girlfriend or wife for granted; after all she is the first one that will always be there for you in your desperate time of need. A woman’s heart is such a precious thing, it’s so easy to gain and just as easy to lose. You need to understand that if your girlfriend or wife approaches you with what she feels isn’t working in your relationship, please see this as her cry to help you both, don’t see it as if she’s attacking you with all the negative things, relationships are all trial by error and you have to work at it to keep it healthy, strong and alive.

I suppose most of you ladies reading this post have been with someone who is a fake. You meet a guy, and he’s absolutely the best person to you ever. In your eyes he’s Mr. Right, he’s the hottest guy to you, he does all the right things and says all the right things that just sweeps you off your feet. The personality he shows you is flawless, shortly after that, his true colors come out, and you’re left standing there wondering what happened to the man you fell in love with! Now you have a choice, do you accept this person for who he really is, or do you hold on to the man he used to be in the beginning in hopes that he will soon sweep you off your feet again? That no doubt would be a difficult decision!

Men, women understand that you will want to flatter them, but you have to understand that what ever you do in the beginning of a relationship is pretty much what they would automatically expect to get if they pursue a long term relationship with you. So please, maintain it, continuously make that lady feel pretty and sexy like you did in the beginning. You don’t need to go spend hundreds of dollars, but a single rose, or a card or a sweet note on a post would make them smile from ear to ear. And think about it, to make her smile and feel this happiness only cost you a few minutes of your time! It’s really not a lot to ask for! I understand that people change, and we must learn to adjust to each others changing ways, but don’t ever forget that women are delicate flowers inside and out, and you must provide your rays of sunshine upon them.

I can’t stress this enough, but to women, the little things that you do is what means the absolute most to them. Please don’t stop giving them morning hugs and kisses, if you can’t see them every morning, then don’t stop sending the sweet good morning text messages or morning phone calls. And same goes for night time, there’s nothing better for a woman than having the man she loves call her or hold her and tell her he loves her right before she goes to bed. Men, please take the initiative and do this for that special woman in your life today and forever!
God Bless!